This is as plain and simple as I can be. This is me, and the real me. This is me as I know me. This may not make too much sense, but within this post I’m going to speak about not changing yourself for anyone. It’s something we say everyday as adults, but many of us never practice it. The reason I titled this post, “Move On, Do You” is because I’m mainly speaking about failed relationships, and trying to change yourself for another person. My personal story goes as follow…..
I was in a wonderful relationship with someone. This truly was the person I feel in love with the most. People say, “there is no such thing as the one” but I beg to differ. At the end of our term I was dumped. Yes that happens in life, but what was the hardest was that I was dumped for another man. That hurts the most, it made me feel less of a man and like I wasn’t good enough. So what did I start doing? Of course I started sending the text messages and emails stating, “I love you and will always love you.” “You will always be the only one for me.” and all that other good bullshit. That failed to work. So what did I try to do next? Of course I tried changing my personality. She wanted a man who didn’t go out as much, partied, read more and can hold a conversation about politics. So I sold my dj equipment and decided to give up on entertainment. I started watching the news and CNN more, and started to try to make conversations about Obama. That didn’t work so what was next? I tried to change my appearance. I tried my hardest to get bigger, joined a gym and started eating healthy foods. I once remember her saying, “I’d love to see you with cornrows.” So of course I started to grow my hair. That didn’t work either. So that left me in a very deep depression. I stopped eating and letting my appearance go. (I didn’t mention that tattoo I got with her name and birthdate on it) I lost a ton of weight to the point where my landlord told me I was getting too thin and I should eat. I did nothing but slept and felt like the lowest person on earth because I wasn’t good enough for this human being. FOR EVERYONE ELSE WHO WENT OR IS GOING THROUGH THAT, ITS BULLSHIT!……… I realized that I was living my whole entire life for someone else, that not only care but didn’t give a damn if I woke up tomorrow or not. I got my act together. i started to do what I loved again. Yes I got back in the gym, yes I continued to eat healthy, and yes I continued to watch CNN. You know why, because all those things were good for me to begin with.
Whatever flaws and issues you may have for one person, may be golden to the next person. Be you… The true you is the only person your good at being. Yes certain situations in life my change the way we look, talk, and think. But at the end of the day do it for you. I feel 100 percent and I’m writing this post because this is my escapism, and I’d love for someone to read my personal stories and learn, and feel encouraged by it. That situation was a personal situation that required me to grow up and learn. I’m glad I went through it, and even happier I came out of it. Don’t let anyone dictate the person you truly are. Love yourself, love others, and you will be 100 percent successful. It’s designed to work that way. (ps everyone doesn’t need to know everything.)
-TR
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